Recently we went to the beach for a week's holiday. We hired a house that turned out to be right next to open parkland and my 13 year old son, who has been keen to take up golf, had a golf ball with him but no golf clubs.Read More
It's one of those high school debating topics 'That the ends do not justify the means’, and it invites an endless conundrum of situations where the ends might justify the means, like when peace justifies war, or you need to be cruel to be kind.Read More
Confidence in telling our story, in standing up in front of others and speaking, is one of those cart before the horse, or chicken and egg situations, where you need confidence to do it, and doing it gives you confidence.Read More
So you’re just a little bit terrified of public speaking, and just the thought of telling a story, your story in public has your blood run cold. Welcome to a very large club that most people stay in their whole lives even though the door is there with a handle that just needs turning.
So I’ve got a new program, yep, in a bright red, enchanted portal to a parallel universe, still with that old-made-new program smell, like fresh sandalwood, is a world of voice, expression, drama, connection and story.Read More
Sometimes people make glib comments about personal storytelling being indulgent, self serving and self absorbed. This can be taken on by some of the people I work with who say, even as they are drawn to personal storytelling, that they feel too self conscious or feel it is too self-centred, to share their stories.Read More
The first step in learning to tell stories is to begin to understand story. I say 'begin' because like many things, Story has a small front door that conceals an enormous world behind it. Once you have the key to open the door, to see and understand the basic structures and elements of most stories, you can explore more deeply (if that appeals).
The final step in learning to tell your story is to tell it with heart and presence, which is easy to say, but is actually a subtle and unique mixture of art, craft, confidence, groundedness, practice, faith and service, and it takes all the other steps before it to fall into place.Read More
So you're curious about storytelling. This is good, this is the next step after we move over our fear in our journey to telling stories.
There's certainly a lot of hype about 'story', with it being bandied about as the answer to everything from how to be trusted to how to mow your lawn (no, sorry that part is just rubbish).Read More
Self awareness is a nebulous concept but it seems to be generally agreed that it correlates with a few desirable aspects of life.
For example Daniel Goleman sees self awareness as the key cornerstone to emotional intelligence, because without an awareness of what you are feeling andRead More
There is a quote I often run through my mind, especially when I am scared of something ”When you hear the sound of the cannons, walk toward them." - Marcel France.
I have searched the internet to find out more about Marcel France but he is not even mentioned in Wikipedia so I can’t share anymore about him,Read More
There are some parallels in the idea of creating space and creating a ‘story’. Both are invisible, both kind of exist even if you pay them no attention or awareness, and both come into their own and are enormously powerful if they are brought to consciousness and with skill and experience are deliberately made.Read More
After so many years studying and practising group processes, facilitating, holding space, feels intuitive, like second nature, so that its hard to pull apart the steps, the details, the core essentials that make space safe, and safety is the name of the game, always.
Safety or trust is the critical state you are aiming for whenever you are facilitating, no matter what your purpose, but for this Muse I want to focus on the need for safety in order to elicit stories.Read More
Live storytelling performance is a fickle thing; no two performances are the same, even with the same story, teller and audience.
There is an energetic conversation that is occurring between the teller and the audience, through the story. It is a three-way relationship, and each feeds and affects the other.Read More
Traditional thinking would have us pit sport and art against each other, as polar opposites, with art being seen as cultured, intelligent and creative, and sport as physical, simple, uncultured, competitive and generally artless.Read More
I come from a legal background, over 20 years of studying and working in the law. With hindsight and an expansive view, I can see that some of what I was doing in the law was creative, but it’s a stretch, the language and concepts of ‘creativity’ were not used or understood let alone explored, in the realm of law. Creativity was for artists, advertisers, writers, the other people who lacked order in their working world - and the law definitely sees itself as being about order.Read More
I am a total improv fan. I love it. I think my love began when the wave of Theatresports, an improve based event, was at its height in Melbourne in the 90’s, it was even on TV! One time I went to a Theatresports event at the Victorian Arts Centre and it was antithesis of everything I ever previously seen in that building (probably a total of two other shows). It was loud, it was colourful, it was funny, but most of all it was unpredictable.Read More
In some ways the very act of telling a story about ourselves is an act of vulnerability because we are sharing who we are and how we think and feel. But just as we can tell ourselves stories that aren’t really true, so we can tell them to others. Stories of bravadoRead More
Trust is a pretty fluid and subjective concept. I used to think being trustworthy was about being true to your word, all the time. I used to think it was never lying, ever. I used to think it was having integrity and living with values, always. I was pretty rigid, and my idea of trust was based on high ideals which I tried to hold myself accountable to, (and of course I had a host of excuses when I didn’t!)
These days I have a more fluid and accepting view of trust. It strikes me that trust must ultimately begin with trusting ourselves.
If we trust ourselves, we will act as in alignment with our values, because to do so breaches our own trust. To trust ourselves means we won't desert ourselves when we make a mistake or fail, but stand by ourselves and hold our own best interests at heart. To trust ourselves means we believe in ourselves as being well intentioned, and capable of managing the choices we face.
None of this is easy, and it is not the only aspect of trust, but it must surely be the best place to start?
So how can storytelling help us learn to trust ourselves?
When we take the time to revisit our history, to craft memorable moments into stories and make sense of the experiences anew, we explore and reflect on the values and world view embedded in the story. That is the message of our story, the reason we think the story is worth anyone listening to and so in the process of crafting to share outwards, we reflect deeply and deepen our self knowing. This activity alone builds trust within, because we are validating and honouring our experiences, we are revisiting our values and acknowledging when we kept or failed them, allowing for a present day re-commitment to them.
And then there is all the trust work that comes with the sharing, the standing by our own side as we tell!
Trust is of course the basis of good leadership, and we'll look at this in the Storytelling for Women Leaders workshop Story Wise is putting on 20 - 21 March. More details here.
More and more I realise that the answer to life the universe and everything is not 42, it is STORY.
Storytelling to Build Trust is the topic of this months free lunchtime webinar on 9 March (https://www.storywise.com.au/webinars/
A few days ago I spent an hour or so coaching a 13 year old boy who told a story for the NIDA Nights event last Thursday. We had already had a session by Skype on Sunday and it was great to meet him and a pleasure to coach him.Read More